Most people assume that relationship problems are about communication. Learn to use “I” statements, practice active listening, pick your battles. And while those skills certainly help, they rarely get to the heart of why someone keeps ending up in the same painful patterns. The couple who fights about dishes isn’t really fighting about dishes. The person who pulls away every time a partner gets close isn’t doing it on purpose. Something deeper is driving the bus, and until that something gets addressed, the surface-level fixes tend to fall apart.… Read more